Self-image, Em Dorman

Welcome! My name is Emily/Em (they/she).

I am an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who loves relationships (the ones we have with others and ourselves). I work with individuals, couples/polycules/ethically non-monogamous groups, and families.

I live in Oakland with my partner and two cats, Basil and Olive. I spend my time cycling through a million hobbies (crafting, gardening, baking, anything you could picture a grandmother doing), admiring redwood trees, caring for and being cared for by community, doing advocacy, nerding out about relationships, and enjoying media from the 90’s and 2000’s for nostalgia.

 FAQs

  • I center liberation-focused, attachment-based, and trauma-responsive approaches.

    In a liberation-focused approach, I view situations, problems, or relationships with an intentional focus on the voices and experiences of people who have been historically and systematically marginalized. This means that I work with folks to set therapy goals aligned with dismantling internalized and systemic oppression.

    An attachment-based approach means that I pay particular attention to how people’s experiences of relationships have impacted their view of themselves and the world. We may focus on relationships with caregivers, siblings, your kids, intimate partnerships, therapeutic relationships, and/or how you relate to different parts of yourself.

    In a trauma-responsive approach, I acknowledge the widespread impact of trauma and actively respond to its effects by creating environments and interactions that prioritize safety, trust, choice, and empowerment.

    I tend to use modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and play therapy. I also tend to draw on bits and pieces from mindfulness and somatic interventions, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT).

  • People have described me as gentle, casual, funny, direct, insightful, dedicated, and a “mensch.”

  • Some identities that come up most frequently for me as a therapist are:

    • Queer

    • White/European Descent

    • “Spoonie”/chronic illness

    • Fat/“Small Fat”

    • Gender non-conforming

    • Neurodivergent

  • Yes! I encourage respectful and thoughtful questions of all kinds! Like in all my relationships, I reserve the right to take time to think about answering or to pass on answering. Some values that come up most frequently for me as a therapist are:

    • Abolition, Anti-Carceral, Divest from Police

    • Anti-Authoritarianism/Fascism

    • Anti-Capitalism

    • Anti-Genocide (Free Palestine! Free Congo! Free Sudan!)

    • Anti-Imperialism/Anti-Colonialism

    • Mad Pride/Disability Justice

    • Fat Liberation

    • Harm Reduction

    • Housing Justice

    • Sex/Kink Positivity

  • Yes! Go to the individuals and relationships FAQ’s to see more information on sliding scale rates and availability.

  • I started my career at the Pacific Center for Human Growth in Berkeley, CA, where I worked primarily with LGBTQIA+, nonmonogamous, and neurodivergent folks on topics as anxiety, depression, identity formation, fostering secure relationships, suicidality, and accessing gender affirming medical care and services. After this, I worked at a Trauma Recovery Center in Richmond, CA. I primarily served trauma survivors in immigrant, Latino/a/e, and/or Black/African American communities who sought to heal from state, relationship, sexual, and/or childhood trauma. While in this role, I completed Part 1 and 2 of EMDR Therapy Basic Training. I received my Masters in Counseling from the Wright Institute in 2022.

  • A consultation meeting with me is a very low-key chat. It’s an opportunity to get to know each other, ask questions, and discuss fee.

  • I currently offer telehealth therapy only.

  • I am a virgo sun, cancer moon, and aquarius rising